Thankful Week 2 – Spouse / Significant Other

Topic 2 from the 52 Weeks of Gratitude list.

What to write here? The bachelor who has been single – and the intro-/extrovert who is shy enough to readily mingle 😀 – does find it difficult to expand on this topic, doesn’t he? So, what do I write here? Who to thank? Maybe summarize some significant candidates, rather what I saw/learnt/developed through them, of the “arranged marriage” market in India? 😛

OK then… let me take up three candidates here: no names/characters obviously! Basically, why I am thankful to them… 🙂 If there is anything here that might seem insulting/hurtful to those addressed below, I am sorry. :/

First let me thank my Mutual Refusal Friend – MRF from hereon.

I don’t remember when/how the profile exchange happened, but our parents told us to talk and see if we do match each other. The first phone call… we realized that we wouldn’t be a good pair, but would be good friends. Especially with the shared frustration of family-induced pressures in partner-perusal! 😀 Thanks for bearing me when you could, Ms. MRF, and a happy married life once again. 🙂

Second in line of the significant thank-ee’s (if that’s a word) is my Ex-Fiancé – EF for further reference.

As clearly mentioned, I did have a fiancé, but not any more. No need – nor the reason for this post – to get into why the “ex-” adjective came to be. Why am I thankful to her still? I used to have a simple/complex (one’s p.o.v.) health issue that could be tackled either by regular meds or by surgery. I had been on meds till the engagement and then went on to get the one-time surgery post-engagement, thanks to my commitment to a new life due to her. Well… so, a great thank you, EF for having gotten me out of the meds-cycle. Also, on a lesser note, thanks for giving me a fresh outlook as to how to proceed on this match-seeking process. 🙂 Wish you all the best in finding someone who is a better match than me.

Finally comes the Poorly Interactive Inspiration – PII hereon

Like the “name” says, my interaction with her has been poor – but that’s maybe my fault or hers… or simply that she is the first serious post-break-up interaction… sorry for that. Anyway, since this is a post expressing my gratitudes, let me express my thanks to you for having inspired me to look seriously for my professional field shift. I had been putting this off until I got to know of this lady and her career field. 🙂 Whatever it is, our process didn’t work out but I’d always be grateful to you for the career inspiration, 🙂 as well as the re-easing me into lady interaction. 😛

Oh well… maybe I missed some… maybe I should just have thanked God for keeping me away from the other unclear/over-proud “matches”… maybe I should have thanked my ex-crushes for introducing me to this notion… but am still thankful to be a bachelor 😀 😀
More to come…


Thankful Week 1 – Why Start This Challenge?

Like I mentioned in the previous post, with the entire list for 52 weeks of gratitude, I had been meaning to start on this sometime last year… so that I can get done with the list by the time that 2015 ended and also get into a regular blogging habit. That did not work out – blame my laziness, or whatever else…

Now why did I choose this topic list? From what I have written in the past, it seemed as if I am more of a negative-minded blogger… not exactly the pessimistic kind, mind you! So, I thought that it was time for me to actually get down to it and acknowledge those who helped me get anything out of my life. Yes, I might be a disappointment to some, an overachiever to a few others, and a who-is-this-any-more to a lot of my friends/acquaintances… and I am sorry to say that I have been so out of touch with my friends, relatives and even myself that this review is definitely a very useful one.

This would help me identify how I became a better person over time, and those who helped me in becoming such… it would also help me give up any regained shortcomings and get back to that better state I was in. 🙂

Getting back to blogging and re-becoming (if that is a word at all! :/ ) a better person as I once was – and am now, as well – while saying thanks where it is due… that is the reason why I took up this exercise. Is there some selfishness here? Sure, but hey, this much is not too bad now, is it? 😛

52 Topics for Weekly Thankful Writing

Alright… a late start to this “weekly” exercise. This is something that I had found quite sometime back in 2015 on Bikramjit‘s blog. I had thought to take it up, work on it daily and finish it up before 2016 arrived… but now, am even starting late… :

Anyway, here is the list of 52 topics, one per week, for this year. I am not sure I will follow the weekly schedule – am thinking of making this a more regular exercise… let’s see…


A Theme For Weekly Writing

What is the best 5-word story you’ve heard/thought of?

Another Answer by Me on Quora:

What is the best 5-word story you’ve heard/thought of?

  • “And then, we had cupcakes!!!”
  • There he sat, comfortably nervous.
  • What goes on in there?
  • He Said – She Said: Marriage…
  • “I Am Everywhere”, said Death.
  • “Who cares… we’re hardcore fans!”

All coined by me on the spur of the moment. Maybe more will come, and the answer will be edited as and when they do… 🙂

Yes, yes… I know I am sharing here a lot of my Quora answers nowadays. But what to do, that is where most of my five-to-ten line daily writing is happening nowadays – answering questions seems to give me a topic to write on.

And yeah, guys, gals, and everyone in between, please do share your 5-word stories here in the comments as well. Also, do let me know of your take on mine. As mentioned in that answer above – I will update that answer as well as this blog post as I think of new ones myself. 🙂

What if Google was a guy?

An Answer by Me on Quora:

What if Google was a guy?

Thanks for the A2A, Dimple Bhatia! Happy New Year to you, btw. 🙂

If Google were a guy… hmmm… interesting question, I should say! While I see many funny, witty answers down here – Bhuvi Jain, as always :), and Arnima Sharma for the College Humor videos I should say, I liked best – let me try this time to answer it like the engineering/numerical/data analyst that I professionally am. So, my answer is going to be mostly about the career options that the guy Google would follow through, from the most boring on upwards… The impacts of these on his personal life may appear on some of those – I can’t really guarantee it. The answer shall be a flow of ideas straight from the brain to the keyboard without much edits.

Before that, though, I don’t understand why most people here seem to think that Google is the one who knows everything, or the one with all the answers. No – Google is just a search engine which knows the fastest and best ways as to where to look for answers. If we were to humanize a website with the most knowledge/answers, that would be Wikipedia.

First off, with his great indexing ability for such a vast space as the internet itself, the first job for Google that comes to mind would be that of a librarian. Of course, while most people would consider it a boring job – and so, not many GFs – I think a librarian would have a great time just reading up on all that is available around him at the workplace. And, with the aforementioned level of ability, getting to be the librarian at the best damn library in the world would not be any difficult for Mr. Google. Who knows, maybe he could even get to meet a very intelligent SO right there in the library itself, and that would make for a great marriage itself…

Second guess at a career – first-class researcher. We know that he can get a great amount of the required data very quickly. We know that his analysis of what is necessary, and what the next step is from the available data is excellent – just look at the insane amount of suggestions that he provides just from the first few letters you start typing into the search box! Now, I cannot still say with absolute certainty as to which field he would choose – but if I were to guess, I would hedge my bets on applied math. After all, he is quite a bit into algorithms from the data-searching process, which comes naturally to him. Again, this would term him a nerd during school/college; but hey, the contributions forthcoming from his research would be great enough to compensate for any name-calling. Besides, I think he would be self-confident enough to deal with any attempt at bullying. This position should also lead to a quite intelligent life-partner, IMHO.

My next guess would be that he would be a great help to the police and other higher-level investigative agencies in all kinds of investigations. Who better than someone who knows where exactly to look for information than Google to do this – whether it be a case of missing persons, murder investigations, financial wrongdoings, or whatnot? He might even set up his own shop as a private detective, and go down in history as the best in the trade, more famous than Sherlock Holmes – most likely even without the cocaine-snorting habit that the 221B resident was known for. Now, if he were a cop/FBI/CIA/equivalent-in-other-countries guy, then there is not much I can really say about his chances of romance/marriage and happiness or lack thereof.

My final and most likely, in his case, guess – getting a bit tired from the typing, and thinking up stuff by now… I think he would be the one to start the tech revolution in the Silicon Valley (or wherever else he may be comfortable settling down in). Also, I think that he would have started the Big Data trend that has only caught on recently. With this, he would be among one of the first software-related billionaires in the world. I am pretty sure no shortage of girls/models/actresses then, unless he’s already married by the time he hits success…

Well, hope this answer provides for a decent reading…

Sai’s Note: For those that do not know, in Quora terminology, A2A stands for Ask to Answer. That is when someone wants you to answer a particular question, and also gives away some of their own points to motivate you to answer.

New Year’s Writing Resolution

So, here we are in the New Year – 2015 of the Gregorian calendar. My resolution this year has been to get to write more. I had an interesting discussion with a professional writer as to how to get this regular scheduled thing going on, and also as to how he keeps getting the flow of ideas streaming along.

Since I told him that my primary aim is to maintain a blog, before getting into any subject- or topic-focussed writing going, what he suggested was that I should get some discipline going:

Write something down daily, even if only a few lines a day. Keep this up for at least two to three months, and by then, you will not be worrying about either of those two things. Also, you will have developed your individual writing style by then.

This is what he told me to do, and stick to. I have been doing it for the past two-three days really, but in a notebook of my own – nothing worth putting down here. But finally I seem to have hit upon an idea that I think I can write about on here. That will come up after this, obviously. If I am not able to finish the piece tonight (too late now, after all), I promise it will be up on here tomorrow.

So, here’s hoping that there will be plenty more that I can put up here, instead of in my notebook. I know that I haven’t got more than one reader I can count on right now, but reader-count is not what I am doing this for – not right now, at least. 😛

My first bit of creative writing, if I can call it that…

I am a lonely person. I am a busy person. To explain what I do is actually pretty simple. Now that I have some time on my hands, let me do just that. But this short note on myself will not be as simple as what I do, because I am very complex.

I am the head of an international enterprise. I hold the absolute monopoly in the field and that explains why I am so busy. I have been doing the same thing for as long as I remember. I am too old now to even contemplate those heady early days  when I first sensed the opportunity. Now, of course, everyone knows what  I do. In fact, no one on this planet can say that they haven’t known me.  I am in the transportation and courier services industry – to put it very broadly. But let me assure you, this is unlike any of those  overnight or overseas delivery companies you see advertised on TV and hoardings and where-not these days. My service is the fastest and the most wide-spread one by far. I provide my services to everyone, and I don’t charge a penny! There are, however, many related industries which thrive because of work that I do. I don’t have any problem whatsoever with that. To each his own. All I ever wanted was power, absolute power, which I wield already.

I run a very tight ship, taking care of almost all the transactions my enterprise is involved in. Not for me the laissez-faire management and delegation that every one seems to engage in nowadays. This has led many to believe that I am at many places at the same time. They are not too wrong actually. Of course, I do give a lot of leeway to my dedicated development staff. They’re still learning. In the early years of my career, I used to be very innovative, if I say so myself. I was the first one to realize the benefits of economy in bulk. I was the pioneer in mass-targeted outreach campaigns. At the same time I am also a strong advocate of personalized individual attention for all my clients. Little surprise then that my clientèle includes the best among men, and the worst among men. Not that they have any alternate choice in the  matter. Call me boastful if you will, but this is the truth. It’s been too long since those days though. Everything those kids in development tell me nowadays, I have done before. But there are some exciting new ideas, which seem very promising in the field trials. Of course, they’re all variations of previous experiences of mine. I am getting bored – maybe it is because of the monopoly I have! You wouldn’t have seen me indulging in such retrospective musings just sometime back.

There  are, however, some interesting wrinkles to iron over every now and then. Some people don’t quite understand that they don’t have a choice in whether they deal with me or not. It’s just a matter of time. I am patient; I can wait. You’d come to me yourself someday. If you don’t, I’ll come myself, personally, to make sure you don’t miss your appointment with me. Considerate of me, isn’t it? There are again those who think that they’d deal with me on their own terms – fat chance of that actually being true. I think I deserve to use those words immortalized by Don Corleone more than he ever did – I make people the offers they can’t refuse, really can’t refuse. To all those pretentious many who think they can say that they’ve   dealt with me on their own terms, I have this to say – I win all the time; and the terms are my own. Do not deceive yourselves.

There goes my buzzer – I am already late for an appointment, and in spite of the monopoly I have, I don’t believe in keeping people waiting. I have been too cryptic so far. So let me introduce myself and get this over with.

I am the Grim Reaper. Yes, I am Death… And I will come see you sometime. You can count on that, if on nothing else!

Sai’s Note – I have been wanting to write something for quite a while now.  These last two sentences “I am the Grim Reaper. Yes, I am Death!” popped up in my head, from nowhere. So this is a very poor attempt at expanding on those two sentences without giving out anything in all that precedes these sentences. Hopefully this isn’t too bad an attempt – I solely blame my long layoff period from writing for anything bad about this piece. Feedback welcome, obviously.

Originally written – January 29, 2006. 

Life’s Simple Pleasures…

There are some things in life which  are immensely satisfying – as someone said “It’s the simple things in  life that matter”. By this, I don’t mean in anyway the poetic allusions  to smelling the flowers, looking at nature, hearing brooks pass by  making lovely sounds. No, no! Mine are much much simpler – so here goes a  small list…

Waking up after a good sleep  – Usually  we hear about a good night’s sleep. I get the same pleasure out of a  good sound sleep anytime of the day. How different can it be if it is in  the night or in the afternoon? Of course, the one after a hard day’s  work is obviously much more enjoyable, but who puts in a real “hard  day’s work” nowadays?

Eating a tasty meal  – Those of us  that have stayed in a hostel, or otherwise away from home for a  considerable amount of time know exactly what I mean. The others – well,  it can’t be explained. So just take this one from me.

Having a glass (or more) of cold water on a hot humid day  – Cold drinks just don’t compare with a glass of nice cool water. So  refreshing, and as the water goes down the dry throat – well, almost  heaven!

Meeting old friends after a long time  – Ahh! The good old days!

My  ideal day (for now) would be getting up after a good night’s sleep,  eating the great food Mom makes, and then heading out to meet friends  over a couple of glasses of (or more, again) … well, anything! ;-p and  then head back home for another nice sleep session…

But, here comes the clincher – I don’t think that all these even compare to how good the following feels –

Taking a leak  after having held it in for what then seems like eons… I don’t think  anyone can deny that this is as close to heaven as one can get for a  few seconds here on earth. The relief – nothing in the world can trouble  anyone in those 2-3 seconds of the initial burst…

So, let me  hear some of what the others think about such ideas as the simple  pleasures in life… maybe I missed some on my list that I would have  otherwise included…

Originally written – April 8, 2005.